Daisy Lee Abernathy was a loving mother, sister, grandmother, mother in the church, friend, Christian and confidante. Born from the Parents of Florence (Carter) and Mack Patterson. She was the middle child and went on to marry Eugene Wilkins (whom is still with us) and later Frank Edgar Abernathy (whom has passed away). Those 2 marriages produced Jacqueline Faye Wilkins Crosby affectionately known as Jackie T, Eugene Wilkins affectionately known as Jino, Glynn Wilkins affectionately known as Glen Ben and sometimes Black Jack. Later came Hollie Paul Abernathy known as Chef Paul and Aprile Abernathy-Allison, affectionately known as her mom and my little baby girl. In addition to this Derrick Mckinley Wilkins and Lamaya Wilkins (2 of her grandkids) were reared in the same household as the siblings. She also Leaves behind daughter in law Yvette Wilkins (wife of Eugene Wilkins and Son in laws Dwight Gates (husband of Hollie Abernathy), Kevin Marcel Allison (Husband of Aprile Abernathy-Allison), daughter in law Balora Wilkins and bonus daughter Ronalyn Kittressa Vaughn.
Our Mother shared her parents with other siblings a brother McKinley whom passed away as a child, Cynthia Howard, Barbara Calvin (both are deceased) and two living sisters Dora Lusk and Othello Banner.
She attended Dunbar H.S. and later went to Central Y, which later became Malcolm X College earning her dietetic certificate. She also became a health care giver and retired from that profession at 62.
In the past 3 years momma experienced many highs and lows with her health. She survived Hospice care in her daughter’s home (Aprile Abernathy-Allison) March 2021. Since, she has enjoyed the freedom of living on her own. During this 2.5-year time frame she’s had numerous hospital stays but has come out on top. Unfortunately, her last hospital admittance (December 29, 2023) she experienced decline in her health. She passed away in the home of Aprile Abernathy-Allison Friday evening at 5:16pm, January 5, 2024.
Our mother Daisy Abernathy was surrounded by all her children, some brothers and sisters in her faith (Pastor Aaron Gray, Co-Pastor Tuwanda Gray and Mother Lucy), Erica Jackson and Sonia Coronado, All her children including sons and daughters in laws, grandchildren and friends were by her side the night of her passing. She leaves behind her 25 grandchildren along with great grandchildren, Apostolic Faith church family and friends. The grandchildren are; Amber, Alphonso (A.C.) Nyssa, Curlena, Terry, Richard, Shelise, Sparkle, Alphonzo (AC), Tramaine, Tiffany, Danielle, Derrick (Mack), Lamaya, Shay Shay, Tyshon, Lakeisha, Terrence, Chelsey, Jalia, Jamila, Khalid, Eugene III (gene gene), Madisglynn, Jahlil and 28 Great grandchildren; Ahmia, Kendrick, Sean, Isha, Quinton, Quince, Steven, Veronica, Brianna, Assante, Leigha, Leila, Val, Victoria, JaNya, Sincere, Xavier, Tyme, Neeya, Aleena, Vanessa, Tyjuan, Tyena, Demari, Tyshon, Armonie, Jeremiah and Jabar
Daisy Abernathy leaves behind a total of 15 nieces and Nephews; Steven, Walter (deceased) Terrence, Adrian, Renee, Cassandra, Robbie, Belinda, Phillip, Eric, Elliot, Bryant, Kent (deceased), David (deceased), Cheryl.
Momma has shared how much she loves all of us. While in tremendous pain her last words were; I love all my children, please and please over and over as she begs to not leave us and that she was sorry over and over.
These days have brought clarity, healing and forgiveness. All she ever wanted was for us to spend time together and we did just that. We danced, reminisced and told old stories. Glynn argued his political stance, while Jino told stories from our youth. Jackie and Yvette prepared food and we each sat with momma. Belinda brings us cakes and snacks while Dwight and Hollie manage her meds. Sonia and I connected on a deeper level and Erica and I hugged more. We all laughed and cried over Doritos and wine...Amber takes pics as we watch Katt Williams. Lamaya and Mack arrive and afterwards we say our final goodbyes to momma.
I end her story this way: in her sickness and last breaths she thought enough to say "I love all my children I'm not ready to die yet, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, please, please, please and calling Jackie then mumbled words due to the tremendous pain she suffered. She responded to voices and touches from each of us before her transition.
Momma had an uncanny way of knowing stuff and would be right most of the time. During her time of suffering and in and out of hospice care along with multiple hospital stays we learned more about our mother. It’s an experience to care for someone that’s dying slowly. We were blessed to spend these last 2.5 years getting answers to questions and reconnecting. As I close her memorial, please forgive her...she said she was sorry and that she loves all her children. Please remember she didn't get things right all the time. Please keep in mind the challenges she struggled with. She needs our love and not judgment. She wanted to live longer so that she could get it right. I'm certain she wants us to get it right. Please allow God to come into your heart and accept His salvation.
The family asks that all accept that she wanted to be cremated and celebrate afterwards with a memorial. Until we all see her on the other side in the spirit realm, with love let’s celebrate, continue to be together as a family, spend time together. Talk things out and not hold any grudges and to please be there for one another. This was Daisy Abernathy’s plea.
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